Today I am assigned to write about seven things that I wish someone would have told me before I was fifteen. Even though they are lessons that needed to be learned the hard way, it would've been easier to deal with them if we were warned about them beforehand.
Here are my seven things:
1. Don't over-promise and under-deliver
-I can't tell you how many times this rule has applied to me. So many times I have promised to do things because I thought I'd be able to, and then the ideas just fell through. Basically what you shouldn't do is take on too many things at once and then begin to slack off because you can't handle it. People will become disappointed with you and in turn you will be disappointed with yourself as well.
2. You don't need to be perfect for anyone
-This advice is definitely one of the most crucial things that you will ever need to learn in life. I know that not only myself, but also everyone else around me, has tried to make themselves perfect for everyone else. So many people try and buy the "perfect clothes", and the "perfect shoes", or the "perfect cars" just to impress everyone else. What everyone needs to realize, especially my age group and younger, is that you don't need to impress anyone at all. I still struggle with this problem now, but I think that if someone would've told me repeatedly that I was fine the way I was rather than not saying anything at all that it would've made the overall outcome a lot better.
3. Don't dwell on the past
-Everyone messes up in life. Mistakes are inevitable to get away from, trust me. Something new will happen everyday in life, so there's no need to try and dwell on what you've messed up on before. You just need to let it go and move on. That is truly the key to life.
4. Don't change for anyone
-When you're an adolescent, it's really hard to make everyone like you. One thing that people are guilty of, including me, is that they will change certain traits they have in order to make people like them. This is WRONG! You honestly don't need to change for anyone else because you're absolutely perfect the way you are. You might not think it now because you feel as if you desperately need to hang out with the "popular" people, but when you get older you'll realize that trying to change who you are was pointless.
5. Spend time with your family
-A lot of people will tell you this throughout your younger years and you might not listen to them. Yet, when you get older you'll realize that you really should've listened to them. You honestly never know how much time you get with a person. Therefore you should never take any time you get with them for granted.
6. Treat others as you wish to be treated
-I learned this lesson at a very early age. However, overtime there have been points in my life where I have violated this rule. You might think that calling someone stupid or ugly just once, or maybe even just jokingly saying it, won't hurt them at all. This is where you are very, very, VERY wrong. Think about how you would feel if someone said those things to you. It wouldn't make you feel very good would it? No, it wouldn't. So really try and think before you say things that could hurt someone else's feelings, because you can never take back what's already been said.
Finally, my last and most important lesson!
7. You cannot force feelings when they are unwanted
- This is by far the hardest lesson I've ever had to learn. The bottom line is that sometimes when you feel like you absolutely love a person, sometimes they aren't going to love you back in the same way. When you find out how they really feel, you'll cry about it, you'll be upset, and you'll probably feel like your whole world is ending because you feel hurt and betrayed by that person. However, this is only because you've forced your feelings on them when they didn't feel the same way. Basically the point I'm trying to make is that if someone isn't "into" you in the boyfriend/girlfriend aspect, then don't try and force those feelings on them because in the end you'll be the one who gets hurt. It's fine if someone doesn't love you back, and what's even better is knowing that that person isn't the only person out there for you.
~Taylor
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